30 June 2024
From sexual taboos to healthy conversations: here's how to start it
Sexual health is an essential part of our well-being, but discussing sex and STIs remains a difficult topic for many. This is often due to the taboos and stigmas that still surround this topic. In this article, we explain how to break these taboos and start healthy conversations about sexual health.
Why it is important to talk
Conversations about sexual health are crucial to preventing STIs and maintaining an open and honest relationship with your partner. By making the topic negotiable, you can avoid misunderstandings, set boundaries and work together to build a healthy sexual relationship.
Start with education
Before starting a conversation, it is important to educate yourself well. Know what the most common STIs are, how they are transmitted and what the preventive measures are. This will give you the confidence to approach the subject in a factual and calm manner.
Choose the right time
Choosing the right time to talk about sexual health is essential. Avoid conversations during intimate moments or when your partner is stressed. Find a quiet moment when both of you are relaxed and open to an honest conversation.
Be direct but respectful
It is important to be clear and direct, but also respectful. Start the conversation with "I" statements, such as "I would like to talk about our sexual health" rather than "You should get tested". This prevents your partner from feeling attacked and opens the door for an open dialogue.
Share your own experiences and concerns
Sharing your own experiences and concerns can help normalise the conversation. For example, talk about a time you got tested or why you think it is important. This shows that you are open and honest, which can encourage your partner to do the same.
Ask questions and listen
Ask open-ended questions such as "How do you feel about STI testing?" or "Have you ever discussed STIs with a partner before?" Listen carefully to the answers and show understanding for your partner's feelings and views. This creates a safe environment where both parties feel heard and respected.
Discuss preventive measures
Talk about the different ways you can work together to maintain a healthy sexual relationship. Discuss the use of condoms, regular STI testing and any vaccinations that are available. This shows that you are not only concerned about your own health, but also that of your partner.
Make testing a joint responsibility
Regular STI testing should be a normal part of your relationship, just like other health checks. Suggest getting tested together and discuss how often you want to do this. This reduces stigma and makes it a joint responsibility.
Keep communicating
Conversations about sexual health should not be one-offs. Keep talking to your partner regularly about this topic to make sure you are both informed and comfortable. This will help address any new concerns or questions that may arise in the future quickly.
Conclusion
Breaking sexual taboos and having healthy conversations about STIs and sexual health is essential for a healthy and open relationship. By educating yourself, being respectful and direct, and communicating regularly, you can make these important topics discussable.
